My personal boyfriend’s ex-wife possess a son (era 14) from an earlier connection, who my boyfriend

My personal boyfriend’s ex-wife possess a son (era 14) from an earlier connection, who my boyfriend

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Dear Amy: i will be currently dating/living with my date of three years. He has a daughter (9 yrs . old) from a previous wedding we has with us any other sunday.

will occasionally relate to as their “stepson,” although as long as we have been collectively he has never invested when with him, nor had any exposure to your, with the exception of sometimes seeing the “stepson” when he drops off/picks up their child.

We a vacation springing up, and my personal boyfriend’s daughter welcomed their cousin (the “stepson”) to visit without our very own permission.

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My personal sweetheart looks at ease with the “stepson” going, but I’m unpleasant along with it.

To me days gone by should stay-in days gone by, and there’s no reason at all to try to co-mingle households (apart from my boyfriend’s child).

I will furthermore point out that my personal boyfriend and his ex-wife were just with each other for a few ages. What exactly are your opinions on this? In the morning we overreacting?

Dear Torn: we don’t know if you happen to be overreacting, but you are certainly responsible for over-punctuating.

The insistence on referring to their guy’s stepson as a “stepson” — as though this will be debatable — are revealing.

The man you’re dating had been hitched to your boy’s mom, right? Then the man could be the man’s stepson.

I am aware hundreds of stepparents exactly who remain near to her stepchildren following relationships is finished. Continue reading